May is for Mojo! Stress less & Achieve More in Summer 2021

Your Mojo is that quality that attracts people to you. It’s that spirit [self-esteem] within that drives your success and keeps you full of energy.

However, if you’ve been feeling low and slow or super anxious in these crazy times, please know you’re not alone. Research shows that 65% of people in the UK have felt more stressed since lockdowns began. The three key reasons are disconnection, uncertainty, and a worrying loss of control.

So, how do worry, stress and anxiety work?

Worry happens in the mind. It tends to be those negative, repetitive, and obsessive thoughts.

It’s when your mind dwells on negative thoughts and the things that can go wrong!

A presupposition of NLP is that, “Every behaviour has a positive intention.”

When you come to think about it, worry is a way for your brain to handle problems in order to keep you safe.

Worry is helpful if it leads to a solution, If not, it turns into negative thoughts that cause stress on the body.

What is stress?

Stress is a physiological response caused by an internal or an external event.

An external event may be a work deadline, an exam, criticism from others or any other external threat.

An internal event is thinking about a fear, a phobia or something that may go wrong.

When your body is faced with stress, the fight/flight response kicks in to keep you safe.

Adrenaline and cortisol is released. The heart rate goes up and blodd is pumped to the vital organs giving you the strength and energy to deal with the threat – an attacker, someone screaming at you, or whatever it may be.

Chronic stress is when the fight/flight mode stays switched on, such as when a situation hasn’t been resolved. This may be financial stress, the threat of redundancy, a challenging boss; or any issue where there’s a loss or control.

Chronic stress leads to dis-ease [uneasiness] and eventually disease – heart disease, weakened immune system, digestive issues and other illnesses.

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety has a cognitive element [worry] and a physiological response [stress]. Basically, it’s the fight/flight response but without a real threat.

You could call it a false alarm!

Anxiety is normal and helps us to flee from danger, such as Neolithic man escaping from a bear.

In today’s world, anxiety tends to be caused by emotionally challenging situations, such as loneliness or uncertainty, rather than a life threatening or physical threat. In Covid times, such threats have been very real for lots of people, hence the impact on emotional health.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem has two components – confidence and belief!
When we have high self-esteem, we generally feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. It makes us better able to deal with life’s ups and downs.
When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light. We also feel less able to take on the challenges that life throws at us.

What causes low self-esteem?

Low-self esteem often begins in childhood when adults and/or the media send us negative messages about ourselves. In adults, self-esteem may be adversely affected by major life changes such as losing a job, being a victim, an empty nest and/or relationship issues. Older adults may be affected by declining work skills or ill health.

Low self-esteem can lead to worry, stress, and anxiety [Nojo] when trying to live up to internal or external expectations.

To combat your Nojo – how you THINK is key!

Dr. Richard Bandler, Co-creator of NLP, says:

“When you change how you think, you change how you feel and change what you can do.”

Here’s why…

John La Valle, President of the Society of NLP, explains the science involved in a simple explanation that he aptly calls Brain Juice!

Good brain juices [hormones] are neurotransmitters that help us to feel good and function well. These include: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins.

Bad brain juice [adrenaline, cortisol, and other stress hormones] consist of neuro-inhibiters or neuro-hi-BITERS as John calls them. These chemicals are necessary in situations where the body needs to go into fight or flight, such as Neolithic man being faced by a bear, or modern-day emergency situations.

Usually, our endocrine or chemical system returns to normal after a stressful event; adrenaline and cortisol levels drop, and the heart rate and blood pressure return to baseline. But when stress or stressors continue due to worry, the fight/flight response stays on. Overexposure to cortisol disrupts your body’s processes putting you at risk of chronic stress, adrenal fatigue, weight gain and other health related issues.

Internal stress in a nutshell:

  • Positive thoughts/actions = Good brain juice!
  • Negative thoughts [worry] = Bad brain juice!

Have a D.O.S.E of Good Brain Juice and Get Your Mojo Back!

DOPAMINE – Reward/Pleasure Hormone!OXYTOCIN – Love Hormone!
Set achievable goalsGive yourself a tick as you reach your goals or the milestones along the wayDiffuse Rosemary [Essential Oil]Join a yoga classEat Tyrosine rich foods: cheese, meats, fish, nuts, beans. High Protein!Spend time with friends and/or petsEnjoy or remember a lovely hugThink about someone you care aboutGive someone a giftPractice a random act of kindness
SEROTONIN – Mood Booster!ENDORPHINS – Pain Killer!
Wake up early and get a wriggle on!Walk in the sunshineSelf-hypnosis or meditationSleep in the dark! Serotonin turns to melatonin for a good night’s sleepExercise for the runner’s highEnjoy a walk, jog or runDo something funRemember or enjoy a giggleDark chocolate and/or a curry

How can NLP and Hypnosis help?

You brain doesn’t know the difference between real life and make believe. This means that you can activated the production of good brain juice [happy hormones] by simply remembering a past event. You can do this by following the instructions below.

Guided Visualisation

Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down. Close your eyes and go inside.
Remember a time when you were walking out in nature on a day that was just right for you.
Recall the memory using all your senses. You can do this by going back to the beginning of the memory and rerunning it in your mind [Mind Movie]. Relive that memory all over again. If it appears on a screen, simply float your mind into it and enjoy it again as if it were today. See… hear… feel… smell… taste…what happened all over again.

NLP Spinning Feelings

Rerun the mind movie and notice the best part of the memory.
This time, as you see what you saw back then and hear what you heard, notice where the good feeling starts inside. How is it moving? Can you make it spin faster?
Now, use the power of your mind to spread that good feeling throughout.
Breathe in, breathe out and sigh. Notice how much better you feel.

Tanya Bunting

Tanya is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Trainer and Student Liaison Lead for the International College of Clinical Hypnotherapy. She works flexibly as a therapist, coach, teacher/trainer in her hometown [Bournemouth] and wherever her skills and interests take her.

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